Recently, I read about a new podcast called ‘Where Should We Begin?’ by Esther Perel. If you’re like me and haven’t heard the buzz about this, I’ll tell you a little bit about it now.
It’s real counselling sessions about a series of issues arising in couples counselling. Every episode involves a different couple who talk openly about what it is that makes them feel disconnected. Each session is a real couple.
There is something wonderfully comforting as we hear others talk openly about what it is that makes them feel disconnected, and in most of the podcasts, it feels as though the people are going to go away and work on those issues. There is no follow up, no official ‘happily ever after’, but the wisdom in those sessions is so incredibly comforting. Who knew that love was hard work? Probably all of us, but we don’t think about it until we come to a bump in the road.
The only thing that it makes me really question is why only couples seek therapy to repair their difficult relationships? What about those tricky family relationships – parent to child, sibling to sibling and the extended family relationships? I suppose it comes down to having to admit that there is a problem, and that both parties have to agree that this will be a way to move forward.
Without a shadow of doubt, we are making more positive moves towards discussing mental health and seeking to improve it. However, when people discuss mental health they immediately think about well known mental health titles: anxiety, depression, paranoia bi-polar, schizophrenia and the list goes on. We have a long way to go to realise that mental health is as important as physical health. Most of us will have something that happens to us in our lives, that rocks our stability and emotional understanding. A big part of who we are is understanding our relationships and experiences, and formulating our feelings from this, and understanding our feelings.
This podcast makes its listeners reflect on our own relationships and experiences. It makes you see things in another light, from another perspective in the most amicable way possible. There are times when genuinely I stop and rewind it, to listen to what was said again, to process it properly. It allows you to access therapy, and give you food for thought.
Have a listen, and I’d love to hear your comments.